This morning I read for the first time a new term in parent discipline lexicon called “pushing-back.” I was appalled and a little on edge once I fully understood that, indeed this is what parents refer to when a child is not following the rules, arguing or downright defiant. By the way, a parent disciplining their child is now labeled “top-down pushing.” Exactly when did the corporate board room take over the daily give and take of the family unit?
I can imagine the scene in my home if I argued with my parents about their decisions for my welfare. At the very least, it was talking back, and you could bet it would have been a race to see which parent could get their hands on me first. Time in my room alone to word the expected apology would have been the least of my worries. I can’t even envision that, instead of apologizing, I explained that I was merely “pushing-back” in order to determine the limits and perhaps negotiate a compromise! Seriously??